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Okay nice guys! These are the rules that are keeping you single! Is there hope? Or is this the no-win scenario like the Star Trek Kobayashi Maru????


RULE: Success (or the semblance thereof) does NOT always mean that you are doing something right!

Many guys are super conformists and follow the crowd by instinct, which results in them falling into the mainstream mold of getting laid and superficial dating. They actually conclude that it is something that THEY are doing within of themselves and persist along that path. Also, like I have stated in other parts of this page, shallow hook-ups and illicit sex are NOT the objective! I've known a preacher to define today's shallow dating as "practicing for divorce". I couldn't have said it better myself!! There was a recent poll that said MOST married women would not marry the man they married if they could do it over again! This is proof that women DON'T want these guys that are so good at getting them! This is NOT the kind of resutls that anyone can brag about! This is what NOT to do!

RULE: After prosperity comes complacency; when you're not starving, you quit caring!!

We've become more morally laxed as a nation, now that we are fat and happy.

This happens also on an indivdual basis. When somebody is in a comfort zone, they tend to not venture out and improve their problems. People compromise their standards, which only generates misery. They do it in their relationships and their expectancy of the opposite sex. This is granting a license to anyone to become your abuser. If women would have unyielding standards today, instead of letting time become a tool to make them more and more comfortable with the jerk that they are dating, they'd be a lot happier. I've seen women that are either a girlfriend or a wife be very depressed over something that their man did to them, as if the relationship is over, and then a few days later, the guy has them eating out of their hand, while they talk about how great and perfect he is! This is classic denial!!! Instead of breaking free, they continue as a domestic slave. The irony to this is that a lot of feminists attribute this to "old" thinking, while this is pure modern world pop-culture morality!

RULE: Evil is always more seductive and enticing than good, and thus, becomes a standard a lot easier.

Nice guys have an uphill battle today.

RULE: Usually, it is the things people DON'T do and say that indicates that they are the real kook, flake, prick or otherwise dysfunctional monster.

It's a lot harder to see what ISN'T there as opposed to what IS there. When you describe what is inside of a room, you may say table, desk and lamp. You do NOT list the things that aren't there. For example, "I do not see a pink elephant in this room". So when someone is detached and cold and they have a blank reaction to something that any psychologically grounded person, it is exponentially harder to see. All you have to do is KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT and STAND FOR NOTHING like a sociopath, and very few people (if any) will ever call you an extremist!

RULE: When you elevate a certain female image in a sexually objectified manner, you automatically create an imbalance that is only settled by making another female image LESS sexually desireable.

Pop-culture sexual materialization has created a more visible and pronounce underclass of nerds and outcasts due to a hyper-sensitive and snooty standard that appeals to the senses, ego and dark side of human nature. Today, we accentuate the superficial! Today we discredit the substantive!

RULE: ANY ideology that is self-serving and self-centered is ALWAYS based on pure emotion, self-mutilating and counter-productive.

A former hippie in an interview stated that when she was in her hippie zenith, her and her friends thought that they were "so close to God" and enlightened in all kind of ways, but later in her life she said that "we were just stoned". She was equating the euphoria that she flet with genuine results! Today, a lot of liberals still can't figure out that they are NOT being a rebel when they have all of their illicit sex; they are just warping their esteem and cheapening sex in their life. Today ghettoes for black people in South Central Los Angeles are far more violent and self-imploding than any group of slaves or even share croppers in the 1800s or early 1900s, yet we assert today that ALL black people are better off, rather than just in slowly growing sections. Women are MORE oppressed today than any beaten housewife with a black eye in 1912, yet liberalism says that it saved all women. Culturally, the Left is in control today and has been for decades; how many Republicans in the White House or Congress is irrelevant since they are so compromised, that it does not counter the Left's grip on America.

My point to all of this is that the Left runs America and the things that it claims it fixed; it didn't!! But it has succeeded in bringing pre-marital sex to 90% and degrading the base of how the opposite sexes relate to and interact with each other. It's been a big orgy that accomplished NOTHING!! We've relaxed morality so much that kids today are out of control and we have turned to boot camps. The irony is that this psuedo-freedom results in a militant slavery after the orgy takes place! Do I think that some dissension was needed in the 20th century? Sure! Did we get exactly what we needed? Nope!

RULE: The modern world focuses on the visual, tangible, immediate and the superficial.

Flare and thrills are the point in enticing people. We market sex with a bikini blitz media that has many women starving themselves and developing all kinds of disorders to compete with the degrading images that our forced down our throats. This culture has resulted in the "pornification" of our daily lives, and has chizzled away at our morality. Critics say that this affects NO ONE and it is all the imagination of conservatives. If this is ture, the WHY do they spend so much effort marketing the sex? When they spend 5 hours to make up a model for the cover of Cosmopolitan, that is proof that it gets results! Otherwise, no one would do it. Not only has our sexual morality has been cheapened, but our DATING morality has been cheapened as well! We have turned courtship into a game where men are arrogant and women tease. Hatred between the sexes and self-serving lust seem to be the common denominators under these new rules.

RULE: Between all of the self-annointed relationship "sexperts" with their psychobabble and PhD degrees, you are going to get TONS of CONFLICTING, amoral advice!!

I hear many sources complain that the reason why guys like me fail with women is that we aren't bold enough or pursue women. I pursue women and then I am told that I should NOT go looking for it, that it has to happen naturally, as if she is going to fall out of the sky and crash through my roof into my lap while I am net-surfing and blogging!

I then am told that I am too mousy or wimpy, so then I am direct with a woman with a compliment or sending her a rose; and then I am told that I am forcing it too much and come across creepy or "trying too hard".

If I NEVER question myself, I am told that I am arrogant; if I question myself ONCE I am told that I am uncertain and lack confidence, which women can see, and they are turned off by me.

I then am told that guys like us are not exciting and do not have passion, so I show conviction in my ideas, life goals and beliefs, and then I am told that I am "crazy" or some sort of zealot.

I'm told that I don't have a spine, and when I show one, I am told that I am too extreme which turns women off.

I have been told that guys like me don't know how to get angry, which is crap, and then I show anger over this slut whore pop-culture and all that it has done to America, and then I am told that I over-reacted and apparently I need to be silent or something.

I then hear that guys like me do not "stand out" and that we need to have balls so that we get noticed. I have always been eccentric and a non-conformist, and then I am told that I am too weird for women and need to be "normal" like typical conformist Nazi rhetoric.

I hear women bitch that men do not share their feelings, have any emotion or know how to communicate, so I am very direct with what is on my mind; I then am told that I am too forward (along the same lines of trying to have sex on the first date) and I "come all at once" with conversation and that I need to "tone it down" because women like mystery and I do not leave anything left over for her to figure out on her own.

Then I hear that my problem is that I seem to be going from one extreme to another, and I need "balance", which is ridiculous because I have done every permutation of mild to bold with a high failure rate.


And finally...

For those of you who are unaware of the "Kobayashi Maru" (little wooden ship) reference that I used in my desperate plea at the top of this page; it is a Star Trek no-win scenario, a rigged computer simulation that Captain Kirk (as a cadet) BEAT!!!!

How did he win a no-win scenario? He reprogrammed the computer so he could win! Starfleet awarded him for his original thinking; he doesn't like to lose!

So my suggestion in observing these rules of the dating battlefield is to CHANGE THE RULES! In fact, I was named after Captain Kirk!


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